Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Are Wedding Gifts Optional?

Well, there seems to be a bit of a stir over the New York Times' March 14, 2009 article, Wedding Bells' Toll which stated, "...the only wedding event for which a present is absolutely required is the bridal shower." I always thought giving a wedding gift was definitely required unless explicitly told by the bride and groom "No gifts. I really mean it. Absolutely no gifts." What are your thoughts about this, gentle reader?

The gist of the article is that guests on a limited budget can give creative gifts such as concert tickets, a mixing bowl with a special recipe or even a dozen white kitchen towels from Ikea. Letitia Baldrige, the etiquette expert shares her money-saving secret. Go to an unknown antique shop, buy something inexpensive, and write a lovely note saying the item is very old and from Vienna. 

We've seen some creative ideas. Once, our services were the only item on the registry. As many guests as wished to chipped in and bought the couple their wedding movie. Or how about sending the newlyweds a bottle of wine or bubbly or dessert wine to celebrate their 1-month, 6-month and 1-year anniversary? One of our best wedding gifts was a cooler for all our picnics and outings. I think we use that more than any other gift we received. 

2 comments:

Events by Evonne said...

Yes, I was a little surprised to find out that a wedding gift is not obligatory, but I would feel uncomfortable going to a wedding without giving the wedding couple something. Now a lot of couples are opting for a honeymoon registry or even have their guests donate to one of the charities that they support. I thought that's a very nice gesture.

J Sav said...

I don't think I could go to a wedding empty-handed either. Giving a gift the couple would love is always in style.